My biggest advice here is do not let yourself get to the breaking point because I CRACKED.

For the first three months of Lincoln’s life, my husband and I implemented a shift schedule at night that I thought was working great — until just about three months in. My husband would do wake ups/feedings any time before 2 AM. After that, I took over. This became an issue when Lincoln was waking up every single hour, and then I was up for the day with him from 6 AM on. Watching your partner snore in bed next to you, and sleep until 9/10 AM while you have been up every hour since 3 AM, WILL cause RESENTMENT. 

I really lost my mind after doing this for three months, and rightfully so. Sleep is SO SO important to function as a human and even more, a good momma! I was not able to give Lincoln the love and attention he deserves because I was so exhausted. If I barley had the energy to give him attention, my husband was sure as hell not getting attention. This was really causing a strain on our relationship. THANKFULLY, I have an amazing partner and he stepped in *I think he just could not take me being so mean to him anymore, but hey… I WAS SLEEP DEPRIVED!*. So he took the overnights and Lincoln actually finally started to “sleep through the night.” My husband unintentionally sleep trained because he’s half deaf (MAN EARS) and would not hear Lincoln crying, or just decided to ignore him….to the point that he just learned to soothe himself to sleep. Myself on the other hand, would be in there every single time (leading to every hour), and then many times, the night ended up with me co-sleeping with him. Hey….you gotta do what you gotta do. My advice here is just communicate with your partner. If the sleep schedule you set up in the beginning stops working, then you need to change it. Nothing is set in stone with babies!

*I will not be doing a post about sleep training because LADIES it is not for the weak. My pro tip is just be so grumpy that your husband cant take it anymore and decides to take the overnights :P. This momma was a lot happier and a better mommy to her son once she started getting a full night’s sleep*